Eeep! Even writing this post heading makes me cringe! I have two children - ages 8 & 5 -who learnt very quickly (probably within seconds of birth) that their mommy can't say no to them when it comes to the little things, like "can I have another sweetie?" or "can I use the computer?". The latter tends to happen just when I've logged on, of course! These I've learnt to accept as my lot in life.
But then there're the other time sucks, like friends and neighbours calling just to chat, or the sales caller who's so sweet you can't help but listen patiently while she tells you why you have to have that sewage insurance just in case, you know, the sewage tank thingy buried in your back yard decides to blow up!
I realised something had to give when I started hiding from my neighbours and getting hubby to answer the phone, then waving madly to indicate I'm not there. Why? Because I had BIG PLANS to finish at least one short story during my two-week vacation and as of six days into said vacation...NADA!
I'm hugely frustrated! Time is slipping away, the books aren't getting written or revised and the bossman is shooting me looks now every time the phone rings and I back away from it.
So I've made a pledge...I WILL say NO to five things...and mean it.
1. No to phone calls between the alloted writing time.
2. No to blog surfing or Twittering (no matter how much I'm tempted!!!)
3. No to Internet "researching" FULL STOP.
4. No to offers of picnic in the park with coffee and cake afterwards *weeps*.
5. And definitely, definitely, NO to hubby and kids popping in with the "we just wondered if you'd like..." (insert temptation of choice here). For me this leads to all sorts of procrastinating, often of the eating and drinking variety.
So to start me off, I've just said a firmly put the phone down on a lovely lady trying to sell me her will-making services (I must just regret that later!) and I'm firmly in writing mode (well, writing this blog, anyway). The Internet will be going off next so I can't sneak peeks at Twitter or find out what the Minxes are up to!
I can only thank God that I'm not really a TV watcher!
I feel empowered...for now, but further tips are very welcome. How do you say no and mean it without getting the you've-just-killed-my-pet look?